Jessica Andrews sang a song quite a few years ago that I just loved. Check it out here. In this song she is singing about self-confidence derived from knowing who she is and knowing she is loved. She refers to her family tree and how it is all a part of who she is. I am fascinated with genetics and this song puts a pretty spin on that.
For the most part, my family tree makes me proud. I don't find perfection but I can find kindness and goodness. I can find evidence of a good work ethic and strong spirituality. I can find gentleness and humor.
What if a part of your lineage is a bit painful to examine, though? I think it is pretty common to look at your family tree and find parts that are a bit shadowy. It may be hard to see yourself as a direct descendant from someone who's life you do not admire. How do you deal with that? It's not like you can carve out pieces of your own DNA.
Or what if you are adopted and don't have the stories or photos of those to whom you are genetically linked? Does that make you any less YOU?
As fascinating as genetics is it is not the end of the story for any of us. I know it plays a big part but we have choices. We have options to who and what we want to be, which part of our genetic heritage we wish to perpetuate. We have paths to healing. For me, that path has always been my faith. I've been chosen to be a part of God's family. I am wanted. I am noticed. I am cared for. I am strong because I am not alone... ever.
Maternal Grandparents
Maternal Great Grandparents as Homesteaders
What if a part of your lineage is a bit painful to examine, though? I think it is pretty common to look at your family tree and find parts that are a bit shadowy. It may be hard to see yourself as a direct descendant from someone who's life you do not admire. How do you deal with that? It's not like you can carve out pieces of your own DNA.
Or what if you are adopted and don't have the stories or photos of those to whom you are genetically linked? Does that make you any less YOU?
As fascinating as genetics is it is not the end of the story for any of us. I know it plays a big part but we have choices. We have options to who and what we want to be, which part of our genetic heritage we wish to perpetuate. We have paths to healing. For me, that path has always been my faith. I've been chosen to be a part of God's family. I am wanted. I am noticed. I am cared for. I am strong because I am not alone... ever.
2 comments:
I am OK with having a few bad spots in our past. I would feel great pressure if I descended from saints.
I too am fascinated with family history. The dark places can hopefully inspire future generations to avoid the same mistakes. Or make for very interesting stories at the least. My husband is adopted, but he truly sees himself as a part of the family that adopted him, from his faith to his work ethic to his gentle nature. I find that pretty interesting!
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